Dr. GURU speaks,
The great philosopher and theologian Saint Augustine (354-430) has stated this in the affirmative. Many others before and after him, not least poet laureate Alfred Lord Tennyson (1809-1892), agree with the sentiment.
Almost everyone will have a romantic love at one time or another in their life.
The person who you have had the strongest spiritual and sexual relationship with is the person you have loved.
Not all relationships are the same. A person may not have the same intellect or depth of understanding as another, but this does not mean that they do not feel the same relative degree of ecstasy or misery.
Most will lose their love. At first, absence will make the heart grow fonder; but with time, out-of-sight will mean out-of-mind.
Most people will find another love and the cycle can repeat again until they eventually settle down with someone.
If you lose your love and never find another, you can live in nostalgic-limbo for the rest of your days. This is a truly sad existence, as you struggle to carry on your life with the luggage you bear. This is the most difficult of situations, as you need to discard what made you most happy and see what else life has to offer you.
Some people maintain relationships/friendships with their previous loves, even after finding a new love. I do not believe this to be a good idea. It is better to completely let go of your previous love if you are to fully love again. People only maintain such relationships out of fear of never finding such a love again, or simply a lack of being able to detach. They are like the monkeys...they need to grab a hold of one branch before they can let go of the other. These people hate to be by themselves, as it leaves them lonely and miserable. This shows only a lack of inner strength and character.
There may be some of you who have never been in a relationship or have never fallen in love. This is because you are not ready to. You may have issues with trust, or you may just need to wait a little longer for the right person. The key is not to just sit there and wait. Find ways to make yourself happy in your own company, otherwise other people will find it difficult to be happy around you.
In this sense, it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, since to have never loved anyone else may mean that you have never loved yourself.
Men and women are innately different. You need to find a partner who understands, heals and completes you.
What if you are happy with yourself and have never been happy with anyone else? For these rare people, you may be destined to live a life of platonic and family love. You can be happy in this path. Not everyone is destined to be with someone else...this is a fallacy. Many who have found love will feel sorry for you for not having the same. This is a pain (sincerely or not) that they express that need not impress upon you.
The GURU must now sleep.
